Fathers: Are you an Effective Role Model for Your Children?

Find out now with our Role Model Quiz!

Fathers, what if your life IS the message? What if how you choose to live your life is the central learning that your children have come to earth to discover? What if the lessons you design, the tips you impart, the learning experiences you arrange, the lectures you deliver, the advice you share, the words of wisdom you speak to your children do not have as much impact on them as the way you live?

Are you modeling the message you want your sons and daughters to learn?  Take this quiz below and find out. Read each item and answer yes of no.  See the scale at the end to determine your male rose-modeling quotient.

1.    _____   I share my feelings with "I" messages.

2.    _____   My children see me eat healthy and nutritious foods.

3.    _____    I exercise regularly in view of my children.

4.    _____ I don't put tobacco, drugs, or alcohol in my system.

5.    _____  When I'm stuck and not sure what to do next, my children hear me ask for help.

6.    _____    When faced with a crisis, my behavior shows that I am more interested in a search for solutions than in handing out blame and punishment.

7.    _____   When I'm feeling hurt or angry I communicate that with an "I" statement and refrain from sulking, pouting, and yelling.

8.    _____   I regularly show affection to my partner in my child's presence.

9.    _____   I demonstrate my caring by regularly engaging in activities with my children that they enjoy.

10. _____   I model for my children how to grieve a loss by showing sadness and tears appropriately.

11. _____  I am comfortable in assuming the role of learner on occasion and allowing my child to take the lead.

12. _____  I attempt to create a shared control style of family management by regularly garnering input from all family members.

13. _____  I model closeness and affection by giving my child regular hugs, smiles, and eye contact.

14. _____   I show by my behavior that being with the family is more important than doing for the family.

15. _____   I have a support group or close friends who my children see frequently.

16. _____  My spiritual faith is visible and I actively engage in it in front of my children.

17. _____   I regularly demonstrate my respect for the environment by refusing to liter, spoil, or waste natural resources.

18. _____   My children know what I value and believe and consistently see me living according to those beliefs and values.

19. _____  My children see me treat living things, including plants and animals, with respect and reverence.

20. _____  I admit to mistakes and my children see me make amends quickly.

Count the number of times you answered "yes" and compare it to the scale below.

20-19 yes – FANTASTIC – You are regularly demonstrating and modeling what your children need to see from a father.  Give yourself a pat on the back.

18-16 yes – VERY GOOD – Your children will benefit from you modeling a majority of these values.  Congratulations.

15-13 yes – ADEQUATE – You are showing your children many positive traits, yet you have some work to do. Why no pick out one of the items above and begin demonstrating it toda?

12 and below – NEEDS IMPROVEMENT – Although you demonstrate some admirable male role-modeling behaviors, you have a lot of work to do. Begin today by adding to your repertoire of healthy modeling behaviors. Your children and their father are worth it. 

EXTRA CREDIT BONUS QUESTION: If you approached each item seriously and answered them honestly give yourself 2 bonus points.  Now refigure your score.

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